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By the way, I forgot to mention this when it went up, but my column over at the Canadian women’s magazine Cahoots is different in nature than it used to be. In the old days, I wrote about blogging women, basically reviewing interesting blogs by women with quotes and praise and so on.

However, I ran out of steam on that — reviewing blogs is just not interesting work, I think, and I prefer to just splat praise on my own site when I find a good one — so I talked it over with the editor and, inspired by my essay on “The Male Gaze,” which was published in Cahoots as well, we decided that the magazine could do with an essay from, uh, let’s say, an “enlightened” (yet occasionally challenging) male perspective.

Enlightened is a tough order to fill, of course, so let me define it: I mean, someone who’s trying to think through things sensibly, compassionately, and reasonably. Not that I never misstep, but that I’m willing to consider the possibility, to understand and to admit it. Likewise, it’s probably odd to some readers to discover that I’m writing for a Canadian women’s magazine. When I mentioned it to some friends back in the early days, they were puzzled and amused. But I’m proud to be able to write stuff so far from the area I usually work in.

Anyway, the first installment of my column is basically a rallying cry to simply recognizing that discussing the dimension of sociobiology in which humans as sexed creatures — male and female — is not backwards or sexist, as long as we know what the hell we’re talking about. The column installment, titled “Planet Crazy,” is here. And the rest of my contributions to Cahoots, including a piece on the British magician Derren Brown, are linked here.

2 thoughts on “XY

  1. First of all, a nitpick — “Anyway, the first installment of my column, which is basically a rallying cry to simply recognizing that discussing the dimension of sociobiology in which humans as sexed creatures — male and female — is not backwards or sexist, as long as we know what the hell we’re talking about” .. seems to be missing a verb/object clause for “Anyway, the first installment of my column” part of it .. LOL .. I do this myself, it’s the trap contained in very long sentences. :D Doesn’t interfere with the meaning much, but grammar geeks might twitch.

    More on topic, I’m intimately familiar with the challenges of being an “enlightened” male among female (and sometimes somewhat intolerant) feminists given to strong opinions. You have more courage than I do, I think, but I commend your efforts. I can think of few people better equipped to bridge that gap. :)

  2. Thanks Bruce! I’ve fixed the sentence — I cut a clause and then didn’t back-edit.

    It’s not so much courage as hopeful pluck, I’m thinking. Coming to terms with what we actually are — a species with instincts and so on — is a very important step for us, and I’m only too glad to try help people come to terms with it one by one.

    You’re too kind: I’m not all that qualified, just hopeful.

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